Here’s the rub, though: no matter how good our intentions, most of us don’t follow through with these resolutions for more than a short time, sometimes only days!
When this happens, setting new resolutions can feel pointless, or worse, self-defeating.
- What did I really enjoy in the past year? What made me smile? Feel satisfied? (Take some time to sink into and savor these feelings!)
- What did I make some progress on? (Think progress, not perfection! Baby steps are fine.)
- What steps and strategies did I take to bring this enjoyment into my life? This progress? (Be concrete here.)
- Looking back over the year, what strengths can I see in myself when I look back through what I faced this past year? (Both strengths I commonly rely on and perhaps some emerging strengths.)
- What values of mine did I honor?
- How can I gradually build on what I have put in place over the past year?
- What steps and strategies worked for me, and how can I use those approaches moving forward?
- How can I draw on my strengths as I move into the new year?
- What will it mean to honor my values in the coming year?
Consider, instead, how you can gradually build a path forward from where you are now, using your personal strengths, and the skills and strategies that work for you, and continuing to honor your values in the coming year.
- What teeny, tiny baby step can I take, today, to move forward? (Make a list, make a phone call, something small.)
- What other step can I plan for this week? (And when can I schedule it?)
- What are the several small steps I can put in place this month (and when?) to continue moving forward?